I have been with my man for 10 years and I still fancy the pants off h that she loves. Certain sex isnt enjoy it was in the start but an average of twice per week with plenty of handholding/cusdles etc. It is thought by me keeps the connection near if you're intimatem. Has she stated she isnt interested in you any longer?? Intercourse once per month seems a long time for you to me. You state its been like this for 7 years. Bloody hell.
As a lady, sometimes life/chores/children do block the way with sex-life (my experience) but we believe it is therefore unfortunate that you will be getting no real love from her.
You seem lonely op.
Welcome to my globe, if an individual of you requires closeness while the other does it not's a genuine problem.